Controlling Your Emotions
Are your emotions responsible for carrying you through the day, or do you have complete control over them?
Unfortunately, when it comes to our emotions, they can become a weakness on our journey to find success. Emotions happen when you respond to the way something happens and how it makes you feel.
Your emotions can be either good or bad, but when building your path to success, they can do more harm than good…
When you’re happy or sad about something, you will either smile or cry. If something doesn’t go the way you planned, you may either blame someone or something, or complain.
Complaining and blaming are your two worst enemies when it comes to reaching your goals and accomplishing what you set out to do. These two emotions allow you to deny responsibility for what happens and is used to try and shift the negative energy away from yourself.
The Problem Blaming Others
Blaming is simple. When something doesn’t go your way, you point the finger at someone else, because you don’t want to suffer the consequences of what happened.
It’s easy to shift the blame to someone else. However, it doesn’t help you find success…
If you want to be successful, then you have to take responsibility for the things you do, even if it’s wrong. Being responsible for your actions shows your maturity and proves that you are capable of taking the good with the bad and moving on. When something goes wrong, you can’t just run away, you have to deal with it head on and take care of the issue.
People who blame others for what’s going wrong in their lives, isn’t a team player. They are too busy thinking about how they will get out of the next situation. At some point, when it happens again, the finger will be pointed at you and you’ll be thrown under the bus.
The Problem with Complaining
Complaining is the other side of the same coin. It normally happens when the person who is doing the complaining doesn’t want to do anything. They would rather moan and groan and give excuses as to why they can’t do it. What it boils down to is they are lazy.
To hear someone constantly complain about nothing can be irritating and can quickly drain your energy.
Being around these two kinds of people can be extremely draining. They will only slow you down from being able to achieve your goals. If you stick around long enough, their negative emotions can start to rub off on you. Don’t let this happen. Getting through the middle to accomplish your goals is hard enough without the extra drama. Excuses do nothing for you, so you need to learn how to deal with situations and react appropriately.
Reactions vs. Responses
If you find yourself in a situation are you a person who reacts to the situation or do you respond to it? When it comes to unleashing your inner drive, it is better to respond than to react. For example, if, on your way home from work, you witness a car accident. You realize that no one from either car is moving. What do you do? Do you calmly access the situation and take the necessary actions to keep things under control until the authorities arrive, or do you run around in a panic and make the situation worse.
If you were calm and collected and helped keep the victims calm until help arrived, you responded to the situation. Your focus was on how you could help. If you were panicked and frazzled, creating more chaos, then you reacted. You allowed your emotions to take control, which only made the situation worse. This is what happens when you let your emotions take over.
When you respond to situations, rather than react, you are able to handle the situation. Your emotions take a back seat to what’s going on and you can maintain your sense of normalcy. When you react to situations, it only works to enhance an already bad situation. Your emotions are out of control and you completely lose your focus.
Learn to Control Your Emotions
In most situations, being emotional is a weakness. When you allow your emotions to take over, you don’t stop to think, you just react. It can make it harder to focus on what needs to be done.
You need to turn your energy and concentration toward what needs to be done…
You need to learn how to put yourself outside of the event and consider what would be the best approach to a solution. Doing this will put you in a position to better direct the outcome of the event in a more positive way.
When you are trying to find success, you can’t let your emotions become an overwhelming force if things happen or don’t go your way, Blaming, complaining, and reacting isn’t going to help anyone, especially yourself. You need to figure out how you can keep your emotions in check, and handle challenges as they arise. The only emotions that you should embrace are those that are happy and joyful after you’ve succeeded.
This is how the middle works. When faced with an emergency, hopefully you’ll automatically start thinking about what to do and how to help. This should be the same way you think about your goals. When you’re in the middle, you need to think about what you can do to help you move forward on your path. The only difference is that one situation is an emergency and the other situation will take time. Think of your goal as an emergency and work your way through it.
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To Your Success,
Jason
