This is Part 1 of my synopsis of the book “The Mountain Is You” by Brianna Wiest. An excellent book that helps you turn your Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery.
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In life we face hardships, pain, and change, but in the end it seems that life ends up working in our favor. Our mind goes through repeated bouts of cleansing where we let go and rejuvenate our self-perception.
Then at some time in our lives we realize we can no longer depend on our coping mechanisms that distract us from our real problems rather, we should come to terms with our problems.
Our mountain arises out of our experience of coexisting and clashing needs.
Symbolically this mountain represents, spiritual awakenings, journey of personal growths, insurmountable challenges difficult to solve from the ground. As humans we must develop and our capacity to see that our problems are the catalyst that allow us to grow in depth and beauty of life. The good news is growth is possible because we are imperfect beings.
The fact that you are imperfect is a sign that you are human, and that you still have potential within you.
No matter what your mountain is it is less a problem before you than it is a problem within us.
Make sure you read the rest of this article to learn what self-sabotage is, when it happens and how to prevent from exhibiting self-sabotaging behavior
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What Is Your Mountain?
Facing your mountain is the only path to freedom and new self because it represents the space between you and the life you want to live. Therefore, it is a time for renewal and resurrection because your old self can no longer support the life you are struggling to lead.
You must let your old self go and be ready to think in ways you have not thought before.
The mountain that remains before you is the greatest calling of your life, and once you realize that you will see it is your purpose for being.
When Does Self-Sabotage Happen?
Self-Sabotage happens when we refuse to consciously meet our innermost needs because we do not believe we can handle them. It is a product of self -hatred, low confidence, or a lack of will power. Sometimes we sabotage our relationship, our professional success, our healing journey and self-talk.
What is Self-Sabotage?
According to the book self-sabotage – A maladaptive coping mechanism that give us what we need, without addressing what that need really is.
The Professional Leadership Institute defines self-sabotage as a pattern of negative behaviors that people engage in that prevent them from moving forward in their lives.
Most of our sabotaging behaviors is due to unexamined fear we have held onto about the world and ourselves. These are ideas that seem to intrude our thoughts endlessly that you are unintelligent, unattractive, disliked or fear that you may lose your job.
- One of the signs that your inner narrative is outdated, limiting or simply incorrect. Your life is defined by not what you think but your self-concept.
- The result of unfamiliarity because anything that is foreign, no matter how good it is will be uncomfortable until it becomes familiar to us. This requires that we go through psychology adjustment.
- A product of one’s belief system and to heal self-sabotage, you must change the way you think.
How To Prevent Self-Sabotaging Behavior
In order to prevent self-sabotaging or denial of yourself, you must
- Love ourselves
- Validate everything about who we are.
The greatest act of love is to no longer accept a life you are unhappy with.
One of the reasons that people avoid doing important internal work is they realize that when they come to terms with their unhappiness, it will mean they will have to be momentarily, more uncomfortable, ashamed, or scared while they start all over. The fact is in order to put an end to your self-sabotaging behavior change is inevitable.
Your new life is going to cost you your old one.
This means it will cost you your comfort zone, sense of direction, relationship, friends, along with being liked and understood. As you move forward, you will meet your comfort zone, you will be loved and be seen instead of being liked and understood.
The only thing you are going to lose is what was built for a person, you no longer are.
When you habituate yourself to do things that moves your life forward, you call them life skills, when it holds you back it is self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is sometimes by accident, or by living in a certain way and failing to behave well, or by personal choice due to you don’t know what else to do.
Most at times self-sabotaging is not as a result of accident at all… but are habits and behaviors that are intelligibly designed by your subconscious to meet unfulfilled needs that diminish our self-confidence.
To overcome self-sabotage, you have to determine where those self-sabotaging impulses existed in the first place before over ridding them.
Self-sabotage is when you have two conflicting desire: one is conscious, the other is subconscious. It involves knowing how to move your life forward and being stuck to it.
Part 2 will deal with the symptoms of Self-Sabotage.
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